Earlier in the book I describe how I’d come to feel “about using human pheromones”. I’d become so accustomed to approaching it was like a Pavlovian response, approaching because it’s in my identity to be the guy who approaches. Hot girls would walk by and my head would snap up like a hunting dog catching a scent and I’d be off. Clearly it wasn’t feasible to open every single hot girl I saw, so when I let one go by I’d feel guilty if my pheromones were not attractive.
Ultimately this was caused by a scarcity mentality — the ingrained belief that I will never have enough girls and therefore I need to be taking every opportunity I get. Again it’s not logical. If I don’t talk to girls today, the streets will still be full of more hotties tomorrow when I do feel like it. Check out pheromones at http://michaelspheros.blogspot.com/2016/09/pheromone-colognes-for-sexual-advantage.html and http://pheromones-work.weebly.com/home/how-do-pheromones-work
Daygamer guilt is really a transformation of approach anxiety. As a beginner AA freezes you and blocks all your lofty goals to improve. Over time you learn to push through it and develop a long- term momentum to keep going out week after week of using androstenone pheromones.
But it always feels fragile, like at any moment you might fall off the horse and become trapped in inaction again. It’s worrying, to have climbed halfway out of the pit and then look down at how far you could fall. Hence daygamer guilt is an expression of the constant worry that if you take your foot off the pedal you’ll lose momentum and stall with real pheromones.
What I aspired to is to simply live my life and if I want to meet a new woman and I see one, then I open. If those conditions aren’t in place, I should simply think about other things and get on with my other interests. The basic skills were there, so I didn’t want to be trawling Covent Garden every weekend. It was too early to think about the End Game but I certainly didn’t want to be on the daygame grind every week for years using cheaper pheromone cologne.
Lastly, I wanted to improve the masculine vibe I exuded. When people talk to Tony T they feel like they’re talking to a statue on Mount Olympus such is the solidity and certainty in his sub-communication. I wasn’t there yet. I suspected the next step wasn’t about studying body language and non-verbal micro communication. Rather, I needed to organise my frame internally and let the sub—communication take care of itself.
In this case there was nothing to lose because she was going back to Germany on the following Monday night. We had a drink in the Sherlock Holmes pub nearby standing up so I could test her comfort (it was good) and she was telling me she had just split up with her boyfriend, and he had moved out her ﬂat. She clearly wanted excitement but wasn’t intellectually quite comfortable with the idea. I talked a little about my pheromones at https://jail6letter.wordpress.com/2015/12/06/my-experience-with-human-pheromones/